I am in my mid-twenties and I have a friend who got married in 2007 and is obsessed with all her “single” friends being in a relationship and getting married. At 18, I thought twenty-five was so old, but now that I am twenty-five—it seems young and my life is just beginning. However, it is so annoying when it seems like a friend only wants to keep up with your life if you are in a relationship. I find the whole thing entirely stupid.
There is nothing more I want in life to find someone who loves me for me, and start a family, but at the same time hurrying up and settling isn’t going to help the situation. (Unless maybe Brody Jenner came into my life—then I would have to rethink the whole situation. Ha)
I am incredibly picky which has a lot to do with my stubbornness. Sometimes I feel really bad about being so picky, but at the same time. I have been in several long-term relationships and always find myself settling and obviously, that did not work out, because I am “single” now. Quotes were placed around single, because I am dating someone and I surprisingly have no interest in dating anyone else. So I think I have every right to be picky because I know what I want and honestly I don’t think I have set my standards too high, I just know what I don’t want to put up with anymore and what I genuinely appreciate in the opposite sex. [Most important is sense of humor and knowing how to be funny without being hurtful.]
Anyhoo—back to my original point and problem. Why do I have to be in a relationship in order for you to be my friend? Our lives really aren’t that different besides the fact you have a husband and I do not. She makes it seem like my life is horrible because I go out to bars with my friends and drink, go out on dates and live my life for myself. Yes, my life also comes with unnecessary drama sometimes and heartbreak too, but it makes me a stronger person. That stronger person will bring more to the table in a relationship and gives me much more to look forward to in the next couple years. So let me live my life, and I promise when I get married—I’ll invite you to the wedding.
